balancing career/family

to this day, my mom is all guilty that she spent too much time at work and not enough time being a mother for steve and i. eun has constant feelings of guilt that she spends too much time at work and not enough time with her kids (that one is a problem though because not only does she do 9 to 5, she takes work home) one of my first convo's with dr. ottosen (the vet) was about his feelings that being a vet almost ruined his marriage because he spent so much time at work. now, his wife has become a vet but i think its only possible for both of them to be working because their kids are late high school/college age. you can't live your life the way you live it now and have kids. the cost of child care can be huge and since extended families don't stay around each other as much - sometimes its more economical for the mom to be a stay at home mom until the kids are off to school (elementary, i don't mean wait until college) i really admire what dr. ottosen's wife did, that she didn't really have a career (i'm not sure exactly what she did before) until she was 40 and then she went back to school. she got the chance to raise her kids AND become fully invested in a career.

i agree with anusha - i think its a personal choice. i don't think its a waste of an ivy league education because i don't think education is ever a waste. plus, i'd rather have an educated parent raising their child than an uncaring day care worker instill ignorance in children. i can see where it would make you angry, but i think that telling a woman since she's smart, she can't stay at home with her kids is pretty similar to since she's a woman and therefore very maternal, she needs to stay at home with her kids. feminism should be about equality - which means the ability to make a personal choice, whether it be staying at home or going to work . . .